You Say Loner, I Say Outcast
God I hate some of these websites out there that discuss Asperger’s Syndrome. You can find them by crosschecking my list against the list that comes up on Google for AS related sites. Generally speaking, unless they are otherwise excellent sites, you’re not going to find them linked here.
For instance, I really despise the ones that describe aspies as “loners.” Okay, some aspies are loners. Definitely. Much like, “some of the population of human beings are loners.”
I’m to bet that for a lot of us out there, we’re only loners by default. You say loner, I say outcast.
What’s the difference? A loner chooses to be alone; an outcast is there by the choices of others. Sure, aspies generally have interests that can sustain them individually for long bursts. However, the outcast aspie, when not hyperfocused on a particular subject or subjects, does seek to have relationships with other humans. And more often than not, the outcast aspie is shunned by those around him or her, resulting in a loner-like state.
True, we are largely self-sustained. Also, while I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels this way, we do enjoy the company of others and we find their input to be interesting. And if not interesting, at least helpful in distracting us from the unending cycles of thoughts in our minds. I know that personally, when left alone too long, I start replaying all of my mistakes and past regrets on an unending loop in my head that only gets louder as the days of isolation continue.
On a nearly completely unrelated note, I’m considering the concept of writing a book on Asperger’s Syndrome. Feel free to tell me I’m insane.