As Human Beings . . .
As human beings our problems aren’t so much a result of our mistakes, but our inability to learn new ways to work around, or avoid making altogether, those mistakes.
Therapists, much like Methodists (oddly enough), are taught, and thereby supposed to, follow the rule of “Do No Harm.”
I think that the people in my life who don’t think I am fit for being a music therapist or a counselor believe that by taking that path, I will in fact do harm. They may not think that I will intentionally do harm, but I do believe that this is one of their main reasons for trying to dissuade me (or stop me altogether) from what I most wish to do with my life.
Everyone does harm – intentionally and otherwise. Perhaps they believe that since I view the world in different and possibly unique (but not wrong, in my mind) ways, that I will perhaps be more likely to inadvertently do harm.
Look at people who drive. In many ways, the standards for becoming a licensed driver are much less stringent than becoming a therapist/counselor. How many people are dangerous behind the wheel of a car? Many.
I know that they see me as less capable. Perhaps they view me the same as they would if they were witnessing a drunk person getting behind the wheel of a car. So here’s my thought . . . being drunk is by definition, an altered state.
As an aspie, I’m not an altered human being. This is me, 24/7.
Suppose there was something in the chemical makeup of your body that resulted in your being similar to a drunk person’s state 24/7? Suppose it were like that all of the time. This is a negatively charged connotation. I get that. Bear with me though.
If you were in that supposedly altered state all of the time, then the state that you were in would be standard and not altered. As human beings, we learn to adapt. Adapt or die, yes? Adapt or fail to strive. Your standard understanding of life would not initially be the same as others. Your standard adaptation(s) to life would not be the same.
But in order to exist and grow as human beings, we must be able to identify the mistakes in our lives and then take steps to right them for an easier, or at least compromised form, of co-existence within our species.
So perhaps they see me as that drunk driver behind the wheel about to drive off into the population of highway traffic. But I’m not like the other so-called drunk drivers out there who are potentially about to commit inadvertant harm. I know what my limitations are. I know the corrections that I have to make to stay on the road. I know the official rules of the road.
Moreover, I am more careful than most. I am aware of those who are around me. I share the road. I don’t terrorize. I don’t intimidate.
And I’m not about to crash and burn.
Putting the analogy aside now, I wish to point out one last important thing about me as a potential counselor . . . as a human being. I make connections with others where other people fail. Certain people will respond to me when they do not respond to anyone else. Those so-called typical people can try all they want to, but until certain non-standard individuals come into these peoples’ lives, they will not respond, let alone connect.
~ by lastcrazyhorn on February 7, 2009.
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